The only time I’ve ever really lead a prayer out loud was last year in Mexico. We were at a dinner with about 25 others, and they asked me to lead the room in prayer. I was incredibly nervous!
Fast forward to the beginning of 2020.
For the first time, I sat down and wanted to pick a focus word for the year. My husband, Mike, and I work with a faith-based company, which has encouraged me to focus more on my relationship with God. We have come to value our spiritual journies.
As I sat there, I tried to think of the right word, and one kept coming to me.
The definition of faith is “complete trust or confidence in someone or something.”
I began reading a devotional and writing my affirmations each morning. Mike also was working on his faith journey. We really thought we had this whole thing down, but God was ready to show us how to step up our prayer game a bit!
What we didn’t realize was we were missing praying TOGETHER.
When we were hosting a mastermind at our home, one of the other men mentioned how he and his wife prayed together, out loud, every day.
Most of the room got silent.
I instantly felt uncomfortable and asked them how they did it. “Isn’t it awkward?” I asked. They explained that it was very awkward at first, but they pushed through that and shared how it has changed their marriage. Now, I should mention that this couple, Cassie and Spencer, are in their mid-20s! I was blown away that a couple so young was teaching a room full of people older than them how to pray together and keep their marriage strong!
At that point, Mike and I decided that we were going to start doing this daily.
We didn’t know where to start.
Prayer is such a personal thing and something that we usually do in private. We called Cassie and Spencer to have them walk us through starting this new journey for us.
Here are some of the tips for starting praying with your spouse (or significant other!):
Buy a devotional.
Take turns reading it each morning. It’s a great way to ease into prayer.
Each person prays.
In the beginning, we both would pray out loud. Now that we are more comfortable, some mornings, we both add to the prayer, and other mornings only one of us prays.
We aren’t perfect, and sometimes we miss a day, but we try our best to stay consistent.
With all the craziness of 2020, we’ve been focusing on praying together.
Prayer has included asking God to come into our relationship; it’s been amazing for us! It helped us through so many challenges this year!
Just the other day, we were meeting with our CEO and his wife, he shared that he had seen my posts about learning how to pray with Mike. He complimented me on being vulnerable and then shared how years ago, he and his wife had led a bible study with a few other couples and how this strengthened their marriage.
I sat in amazement. Mike and I had just started to put together a bible study with a few other couples we are very close to! We are reading Relationship Goals: How to Win at Dating, Marriage, and Sex by Michael Todd and doing the corresponding study. Both are on Amazon.
The Statistics are Shocking!
What compelled me to share this story were the statistics that Mike and I learned. It’s mind-blowing. If praying can turn enemies into friends, imagine what it can do for a marriage.
While 50% of first marriages end in divorce, and 78% of second marriages end in divorce…
Less than 1% of couples who pray together daily end their marriages!
WOAH. That’s a HUGE difference!!
Mike and I are a blended family and have both been married before, which really caught our attention.
Are you struggling in your marriage? Are you going through a tough time? Maybe your marriage is great, and you want to make sure it stays that way. Imagine what praying together daily could do for your relationship!! At the end of the day, what do you have to lose?