Children are Having a Hard Time


A friend once said to me, “Children aren’t always giving you a hard time; sometimes, they are HAVING a hard time.” And it’s stuck with me ever since.

Let’s be real; some days, mom-life can be π—₯π—’π—¨π—šπ—›!

We have so much on our plates, then our little ones lose it, and then we lose our cool. It happens to ALL of us!

One day a few months ago, my daughter, Anya, was having a rough day.

She refused to get dressed.
She demanded to wear her Ariel costume.
We made it out the door.

She then spent time with my girlfriend, Cheryl, and her boys while my husband and I filmed a video for a promotion we had achieved. As soon as I picked her up, she was whiny and clingy.

Typically, it wouldn’t have been a big deal because I usually get our groceries from Instacart. However, this day, I needed a few specific items from a store that doesn’t have a delivery option. We had to stop on our way home.

Internally I was annoyed that Anya wasn’t in the best of moods.

Anya was a hot mess in the store and lost it at checkout. You know the feeling moms; your heart starts to race, you begin to sweat, and you feel like π—˜π—©π—˜π—₯π—¬π—’π—‘π—˜ is staring at you!

I start talking to myself, “Do I let her scream and finish shopping? Do I abandon the groceries and leave?” I’ve done both of these before, so no judgment if you have too! Luckily this time, daddy was with us, so I was able to walk her out to the car calmly and I let him finish checking out.

When we got to the car, she said, “Mama, I just want to snuggle.”

And that is exactly what we did.

We snuggled in close and we both sat there in tears.

Sometimes when we are in the middle of our day, it’s hard to remember that big emotions can be a lot for little ones to handle. So I try to remind myself what my friend said, “She’s not giving you a hard time, she’s HAVING a hard time.”

Mamas, take a deep breath, and give yourself grace.